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There is one consistent element among every divorce I’ve heard of or witnessed and every man (or woman) going into, through or coming out of a divorce, and that consistent element is STRONG EMOTION. Much (if not most) of my 10+ years of private individual coaching is built on a foundation of neuroscience research and…

For most of us, the loss of a loved one creates an emotional landscape fraught with uncertainty, anger, confusion, and anxiety. As humans, our brain is wired in such a way that when we are triggered by a threat event, we disconnect from our Pre-Frontal Cortex (thinking/logical brain) and engage our Limbic system (the Limbic…

This is the fourth Change Model I am presenting in order to give you as many ways to move through the Fog of Divorce™ as possible. Options empower you and help you to focus and engage a powerful region of your brain called the pre-frontal cortex. This is where awareness, insight, and action originate. This…

Many men facing the reality of divorce and the end of their marriage, especially after many years of marriage, think, “I’ve been married ## years! Who is going to want me now?” You’d be surprised at the number of people who are in the same boat as you. Check out table below from the New York State…

Many men going through divorce think they’re crazy – or beat themselves up – or consider themselves a failure. In order to help you see that you’re not alone in the way you’re thinking, I thought it would be valuable to allow men going through divorce to share your stories (anonymously, of course). Please feel free…

This is the third Change Model I’m presenting in order to give you as many ways to move through your divorce as possible. Options are empowering and engage the brain. The third model was developed by William Bridges, Ph.D. and involves three processes: Saying Goodbye Shifting Into Neutral Moving Forward

In my last article, I shared the notion that divorce is a HUGE change (no kidding!) and that, perhaps, various Change Models could be used as tools to help you survive the fog of your divorce. So following along this continuing theme, here is yet another Change Model.

I hate to use that expression, especially since I own a cat (that’s a whole other story), but I thought it was a good segue into this post, which is really about Change Models. Huh?! What?!? Yeah, Change Models. What the heck do Change Models have to do with divorce? A whole lot. You see,

…focus on somebody else’s! So goes the adage of dealing with your own issues. And along with it, a brief story…