Moving through the Fog of Divorce
Are you struggling with your marriage, separation or divorce?
Are you having trouble seeing your way forward?
Has your future suddenly gone cloudy?
Are you unsure of where you’re heading?
Do you need an objective voice in the midst of the storm?
Are you looking for someone you can trust?
I know what you're going through. I've been there.
If you're a man dealing with divorce, you're probably finding it difficult to locate resources and support dedicated solely to your experience. There are plenty of resources for parents and women but very few specifically for men. So when I started my coaching business, I decided to use the experience of my divorce and become the resource I couldn't find. The result -- Surviving the Fog of Divorce: A Divorce Coaching Program for Men™.
As a divorce coach for men, I help men survive what is considered the second most stressful life event for an individual (source The Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory). I do it in a confidential and respectful manner and using methods based on a track record of experience and practicality -- not theory.
We all experience loss at some time in our lives. I've experienced many losses -- breaking my neck at 15, the sudden deaths of close friends in college, my cousin's murder, my father's losing battle with ALS -- but none of these prepared me for the disintegration of my marriage.
When my first wife left me and our marriage moved towards and utlimately ended in divorce, I was shocked at the lack of resources dedicated to me as a man. I guess men are supposed to just suck it up and tough it out, right?!
When I looked back at how I went through, what I call The Fog of Divorce™, I realized there were seven steps that were the key to my survival and success -- along with one big "secret." The Seven Steps are:
- Private Time - Mourning Has Broken
- Ground Support - Finding Objective Personal Supporters
- Air Support - The Value of Using a Professional
- Friendly Fire - Grieving the Death of Your Marriage and Starting the Healing Process
- Take Inventory - Your Attributes, Skills, Talents, Gifts, Achievements, Contributions, . . .
- Familiar Ground - Get Off the Couch and Out of the House
- Roll Out - Create and Take action Towards Your NewLifeGoals™
As each man's experience is different, this program is not meant as a prescription or cure-all, it's more like a healthy buffet. Take as much of what you need right now and come back for more as you're ready.
If you're a man (or you know a man) currently moving into, going through, or experiencing challenges in the aftermath of a divorce who is looking for support, community, coaching, etc., please contact me at 516.216.4233 or email me at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it -- and join my Facebook and/or LinkedIn Group.
I made it through The Fog. You can, too. And I'll help.
Sincerely,
Paul K. McGinniss, ACC RCC SBL® MSHR
Surviving the Fog of Divorce: A Divorce Coaching Program for Men™
O: 516.216.4233 | F: 516.216.4367
Founder, DivorceCoaching4Men
Principal, Response-Able Consulting Inc.
President, Long Island Coaching Alliance, an ICF Chapter
ICF Associate Certified Coach
Results Certified Coach
SBL® Certified Coach
