If you're a man dealing with the prospect or the reality of a divorce, you might be wondering, "How strong do I have to be," and "What exactly does it mean to be strong?"
I am reminded of these questions as I was thinking about some old forgotten "love letters" and cards I found while cleaning out my basement. I'm in the midst of moving from my house of 15 years to my (new) wife's house.
While going through some old work boxes, I found some letters my second girlfriend wrote to me while we were away at separate colleges; she was at Cortland, I was at Oneonta. I also found a card from my ex-wife that was given to me in anticipation of me being away on another business weekend.
It hit me that we may have many loves in our lives and many of them may not go the distance, meaning, result in marriage. That can be a (very) bad thing if you let it debilitate you. It can also seem very pessimistic. I don't think so. I think it's realistic, it's life. These "short-term" relationships can also be opportunities to learn about ourselves and what we need, what works, and--perhaps more importantly--what doesn't.
So how does "being strong" play into all of this? >>>>>>>
